Hi, Sister Expressions' Family! 
It's your girl, Mandy Stone, hoping all is well with each of you and sending you nothing but LOVE! As promised, I'm back to pick up where we left off! As you may remember during our last discussion, we contemplated the topic of disrespectful advances toward a person in a committed relationship and a possible reason why one commits such acts. I gave my viewpoint, which is "hurt people, hurt people"! Nevertheless, let's continue the conversation by diving into ways in which one can recognize their own dysfunction when one expressed this type of behavior.
As a woman of a certain age, I have been involved in many relationship conversations and for the most part, the same issues in regard to romance have sprung up. Just to name a few, infidelity, finances, no compatibility, and different life goals and values. However, at the core of all of these, lies the lack of one main ethic, also known as an "Old Fashion" value, which is love, I call it an oldie but goodie!😆 It's becoming more apparent that the lack of love is a valuable emotion that every human needs in order to thrive and become successful during their life's journey. For instance, the lack of love at the infant stage has been proven to cause challenges in one's adult life. According to Dr. Jacqueline Payne in her article entitled, Child Attachment Disorder, "If they are in a situation where they do not receive normal love and care, they cannot develop this close bond. This may result in a condition called attachment disorder. It usually happens to babies and children who have been neglected or abused, or who are in care or separated from their parents for some reason." Having the inability to express and receive love has been proven to present problems in a person's adulthood, which leads to an inaptitude of not connecting with the pain that is imposed upon others. Such individuals oftentimes cannot identify their selfish or rude behaviors.
I find it quite stinging that we live in times, where mental health care is more readily available than ever, however, the number of individuals that are suffering from mental health issues are on the extreme rise. Although I am not a licensed therapist, I do support the work that they do and would recommend seeking help if you find yourself inflicting pain and hurt on yourself and/or others. Getting to the root cause of negative behavior is the first step toward healthy living! Only you can make changes.
Nevertheless, if someone is treating you inappropriately, please do not become a victim! Keep in mind, that they are victimizing themselves in a much worsen fashion. Now, I am not telling you to allow someone to run over you, but what I am saying is, you do not have to internalize their exploits, you have a choice, and it is totally up to you! As always, thank you for stopping by, Sister Expressions, don't forget to subscribe and until next time, stay healthy and enjoy living!
Mandy the Motivator
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