Old Fashion Part I

Greetings and Happy New Year!

As some of you may know, I am an educator by profession and this is one of our favorite times of the school year.  Many of us will agree that this is one of our most exciting periods because we are now on what is called,  Holiday or Winter Break, formerly called Christmas Break.  As you can imagine having two weeks away from the hustle and bustle of being an educator is what makes it so welcomed and appreciated.  Just like the name change of our time away, another major change that has taken place in life is the embedding of social media.  Nevertheless, many other things that have become intertwined and have ushered in change is the use of social media, and its involvement as a pastime indulgence that not only entertains, but is also where many now choose to get their news, learn exciting new things, and share their viewpoints.  As a result, I too have spent some of my quiet time strolling through Facebook to be a part of my FB friend's experiences, advice, and circumstances.  Therefore, for some of us, what we once knew as the norm is now considered "Old Fashion" and outdated.  Don't get me wrong, I am fully aware that as life evolves, humanity should become more advanced and progressive, but is it reasonable to believe some things are better left unchanged? 😕

With that being said, I've noticed a change that is increasingly growing and I would love your viewpoint, experiences, and outlook regarding this matter.  Now, let me warn you upfront, opinions may vary, however, respect must remain and the question is, is an unmarried man/woman fair game for others to pursue, although they are in a committed relationship?  

Within the last couple of weeks, my man and I have been in various social environments in which different women have made subtle glances.  Although we are not married, we are in a committed relationship and have been for thirteen years on and off.  Although these instances did not cause any direct problems within my relationship, they did cause me to think about the level of disrespect women have for each other and what would make them commit such acts?  

Moreover, I've discovered many reasons cause women to do such things, none of them being positive or healthy, but before you share your thoughts, I would like you to meet of glimpse of one young lady through a paradigm.

Meet Shanell...….

Shanell is a reasonably nice-looking lady and can be found in any social environment, she's at church, at your work, at the club, and at your local restaurant.  Shanell can seem quite quiet in posture, however, it is with purpose.  Shanell's motive is to appear harmless and preoccupied with side conversations, but as soon as she sees an opportunity to make an advancement at an obviously taken man, she pounces with strong, compelling, but imaginative eye contact.  Along with these attributes, some other women can be even more invasive by adding incongruous comments or words.  Now I am sure we can all agree that how your partner handles such advancement is the most significant part of all of this, however, the question remains the same, is an unmarried man/woman fair game for others to pursue, although they are in a committed relationship?  

Perhaps, you have heard that hurt people hurt people, and I find it to be true!  The fact that a man/woman can be so disrespectful clearly shows that he/she is apparently broken in some area of their life.  When someone loses sight of how their actions can bring any level of discomfort to another is proof that a level of sensitivity to life has been lost. Such persons have spiritually agreed to be an instrument to usher in strife and controversies that can lead to several different negative outcomes.  The fact that we are living in a world where violence has increased, this behavior can lead to violence physically and I would add spiritually. Although this behavior has been around from the beginning of humanity's creation, it is still within reason for individuals to deal with their underline issues in life to become a vessel of positivity and support for already existing relationships.  As a result, look out for my next blog as we embark on how to remain an "Old Fashion" man/woman in the area of LOVE and for ways to establish one's own healthy relationship!!!!