Purposeful Living Procedures

 

Mandy

Hi Sisters!  Brothers, you are welcome too!

 

One of my favorite pass times is watching human dynamics.  Examining the thought process and behaviors of others intrigues me because of my nature, simply put, I am a lover of healing and deliverance.  When I say healing and deliverance, I mean wellness of mind, body, and spirit.  I truly enjoy witnessing people finding solutions, overcoming tragic experiences, and living a happy life.

Now, I’ll be the first to admit, I’m not a professional counselor or therapist, but I do have some spiritual gifts and experiences that have served and supported some of God’s people through some difficult times.  As a result, it’s my hope that all people would live burden free!  My hopes include wanting people to know that their life would be better lived by identifying one’s pursuit of purpose, with passion.  Now, I know some of you may be thinking, it’s easier said than done!  However, there are some strategies that can make a difference!  Operating with certain principles can bring joy. 

For instance, it is significant to understand the importance of decision-making and how crucial it is to healthy living.  When we think about various bad experiences in life, such as divorce, drug addiction, and school failure, we’re able to pinpoint the process of how decision-making most likely played a role in how things turned out.  Therefore, taking time to thoroughly think things through and weighing the odds before moving forward can lead to better results.

Another area to consider approving is establishing, and setting goals and MOVING towards them, which supports healthy living.  If you are anything like me, it took me years to first identify my life’s purpose, and after that, I just kept the thoughts of what I should be doing in my head without actually putting them into motion!  Therefore, I would encourage you to do something daily towards one of your goals, at least one thing, whether it’s minor or massive, the effort will push your will to do more!  The more you do, the more your mindset will begin to evolve and advance.

Finally, be an advocate for wellness!  Thinking well is a powerful mechanism for producing clearer thoughts.  I’m sure most of you know, there are five brain chemicals that influence human behavior, one, in particular, is serotonin, which affects tranquility and positiveness.  Creating serotonin involves healthy eating, as well as mindful experiences.  Moreover, be purposeful with the company you keep, and how you spend and create quality time for yourself!  As always, it’s been a pleasure to be a part of your life and until next time…… live purposefully, in PEACE!

 

Love,

Mandy the Motivator with Sister Expressions

Old Fashion Part 2 (Oldie But Goodie)

 Hi, Sister Expressions' Family! 

It's your girl, Mandy Stone, hoping all is well with each of you and sending you nothing but LOVE!  As promised, I'm back to pick up where we left off!  As you may remember during our last discussion, we contemplated the topic of disrespectful advances toward a person in a committed relationship and a possible reason why one commits such acts.  I gave my viewpoint, which is "hurt people, hurt people"!  Nevertheless, let's continue the conversation by diving into ways in which one can recognize their own dysfunction when one expressed this type of behavior.  

 As a woman of a certain age, I have been involved in many relationship conversations and for the most part, the same issues in regard to romance have sprung up.  Just to name a few, infidelity, finances, no compatibility, and different life goals and values.  However, at the core of all of these, lies the lack of one main ethic, also known as an "Old Fashion" value, which is love, I call it an oldie but goodie!😆  It's becoming more apparent that the lack of love is a valuable emotion that every human needs in order to thrive and become successful during their life's journey.  For instance,  the lack of love at the infant stage has been proven to cause challenges in one's adult life.  According to Dr. Jacqueline Payne in her article entitled, Child Attachment Disorder, "If they are in a situation where they do not receive normal love and care, they cannot develop this close bond. This may result in a condition called attachment disorder. It usually happens to babies and children who have been neglected or abused, or who are in care or separated from their parents for some reason."  Having the inability to express and receive love has been proven to present problems in a person's adulthood, which leads to an inaptitude of not connecting with the pain that is imposed upon others.  Such individuals oftentimes cannot identify their selfish or rude behaviors.   

I find it quite stinging that we live in times, where mental health care is more readily available than ever, however, the number of individuals that are suffering from mental health issues are on the extreme rise.  Although I am not a licensed therapist, I do support the work that they do and would recommend seeking help if you find yourself inflicting pain and hurt on yourself and/or others.  Getting to the root cause of negative behavior is the first step toward healthy living!  Only you can make changes.

Nevertheless, if someone is treating you inappropriately, please do not become a victim!  Keep in mind, that they are victimizing themselves in a much worsen fashion.  Now, I am not telling you to allow someone to run over you, but what I am saying is, you do not have to internalize their exploits, you have a choice, and it is totally up to you! As always, thank you for stopping by, Sister Expressions, don't forget to subscribe and until next time, stay healthy and enjoy living! 

Mandy the Motivator

                                                                                       

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Old Fashion Part I

Greetings and Happy New Year!

As some of you may know, I am an educator by profession and this is one of our favorite times of the school year.  Many of us will agree that this is one of our most exciting periods because we are now on what is called,  Holiday or Winter Break, formerly called Christmas Break.  As you can imagine having two weeks away from the hustle and bustle of being an educator is what makes it so welcomed and appreciated.  Just like the name change of our time away, another major change that has taken place in life is the embedding of social media.  Nevertheless, many other things that have become intertwined and have ushered in change is the use of social media, and its involvement as a pastime indulgence that not only entertains, but is also where many now choose to get their news, learn exciting new things, and share their viewpoints.  As a result, I too have spent some of my quiet time strolling through Facebook to be a part of my FB friend's experiences, advice, and circumstances.  Therefore, for some of us, what we once knew as the norm is now considered "Old Fashion" and outdated.  Don't get me wrong, I am fully aware that as life evolves, humanity should become more advanced and progressive, but is it reasonable to believe some things are better left unchanged? 😕

With that being said, I've noticed a change that is increasingly growing and I would love your viewpoint, experiences, and outlook regarding this matter.  Now, let me warn you upfront, opinions may vary, however, respect must remain and the question is, is an unmarried man/woman fair game for others to pursue, although they are in a committed relationship?  

Within the last couple of weeks, my man and I have been in various social environments in which different women have made subtle glances.  Although we are not married, we are in a committed relationship and have been for thirteen years on and off.  Although these instances did not cause any direct problems within my relationship, they did cause me to think about the level of disrespect women have for each other and what would make them commit such acts?  

Moreover, I've discovered many reasons cause women to do such things, none of them being positive or healthy, but before you share your thoughts, I would like you to meet of glimpse of one young lady through a paradigm.

Meet Shanell...….

Shanell is a reasonably nice-looking lady and can be found in any social environment, she's at church, at your work, at the club, and at your local restaurant.  Shanell can seem quite quiet in posture, however, it is with purpose.  Shanell's motive is to appear harmless and preoccupied with side conversations, but as soon as she sees an opportunity to make an advancement at an obviously taken man, she pounces with strong, compelling, but imaginative eye contact.  Along with these attributes, some other women can be even more invasive by adding incongruous comments or words.  Now I am sure we can all agree that how your partner handles such advancement is the most significant part of all of this, however, the question remains the same, is an unmarried man/woman fair game for others to pursue, although they are in a committed relationship?  

Perhaps, you have heard that hurt people hurt people, and I find it to be true!  The fact that a man/woman can be so disrespectful clearly shows that he/she is apparently broken in some area of their life.  When someone loses sight of how their actions can bring any level of discomfort to another is proof that a level of sensitivity to life has been lost. Such persons have spiritually agreed to be an instrument to usher in strife and controversies that can lead to several different negative outcomes.  The fact that we are living in a world where violence has increased, this behavior can lead to violence physically and I would add spiritually. Although this behavior has been around from the beginning of humanity's creation, it is still within reason for individuals to deal with their underline issues in life to become a vessel of positivity and support for already existing relationships.  As a result, look out for my next blog as we embark on how to remain an "Old Fashion" man/woman in the area of LOVE and for ways to establish one's own healthy relationship!!!!