The Girlfriend Who's Always the Victim

As we all can agree having friends is one of the most rewarding part of life!  Maintaining good purpose for a friendship, understanding the character and moral system of a friend along with superb communication skills are all attributes that will help sustain amity.  Nevertheless, there are times when we intermingle with sisters with interesting personality traits.  For the instance, the know it all sister or "the girlfriend who is always the victim." 

So you have this friend who is out going full of energy and you actually enjoy spending time with her.  However, she never takes responsibility for her s_it!  Whether she gossips about you to your friends, mishandle a situation by choosing to share your personal business, set you up on a date from hell or leave you stranded somewhere. She is never able to simply say, "I messed up!"  Instead, she turns the story around and somehow becomes the victim.  Her reason for gossiping about is "I didn't mean any harm, we were just talking and it came up". Regarding sharing your personal information, " I was so upset for you I didn't know what to do or I wasn't thinking".  And that date from hell she proclaims, "he seemed nice and he has a job" but all along she need he was a womanizer. And for leaving you stranded, "I saw you dancing with that guy, I assumed you knew him and had a ride".  Nevertheless, your story may vary concerning your girlfriend who is always the victim but you have her in mind right now!

So how do with deal with such a friendship?  I welcome you viewpoints!

The Know It All Girlfriend!

So you have this great friend who you really enjoy spending time with.  She is your best girlfriend to do most  extracurricular activities with.  She's great at dancing, very well in social atmospheres, and has the most flexible schedule than one could ever hope for!  But there's just one characteristic trait that she has that absolutely drives you up a freaking wall.  She is a know it all friend!  I mean she's an expert regarding sports, clothes, medicine, I mean you name it she has experienced it.  Yes...you get the picture, the topic of discussion doesn't make a difference.  She's simply been there and has done that

Well here is my advise!  I am sure we all will agree that listening is an extremely important aspect to having great communication skills.   And since this friend has proven to be knowledgeable in so many different arenas, it is evident that she has not mastered the ability of LISTENING.  Therefore, when you are having one of those days where her behavior is over bearing try developing a soft but intense stare and look her directly in her eyes and do not give her a verbal response in the least.  Hopefully, this would bring about a sense of awareness regarding how uncomfortable you are!    Perhaps, if we are consistent with this practice one day she will ask for an in depth explanation.  Nevertheless, this is only my opinion and I look forward to  reading your thoughts and strategies on how to handle "The Know It All Friend!"